Rebuttal: 10 Reasons Why Homosexual “Marriage” is Harmful
and Must be Opposed
This rebuttal is prepared from the
original text on the website at:
The text from the site is normal
font and my comments are in-line Bold and [bracketed]. Not every
paragraph has been included here or commented.
1. It Is Not Marriage
Calling something marriage does not make it marriage [correct: saying you're married makes you married irrespective of any
overarching authority. Those authorities do not have to recognize it though.].
Marriage has always been a covenant between a man and a woman [which is a false statement. Biblical
descriptions of valid marriages between many partners consenting or not may be
found in Scriptures.] which is by its nature ordered toward the procreation
and education of children and the unity and wellbeing of the spouses [this has never been true in biblical times
and not any time since until the 20th century. Children were property as have
been wives for many centuries. While
the church has always wanted to control people's lives and behaviors, it has
rarely been concerned with anything than what inures to itself.]
Marriage
may facilitate a religious purpose but it also serves a legal purpose that is
completely aside from sex and procreation. Men and women have never been denied
marriage even when both partners are in excess of child bearing age.
Two entirely different things cannot be considered the same
thing. [this is incorrect since for a
marriage to be legal in the USA it must pass the municipal test of possessing a
properly file and recorded piece of paper that is duly signed and witnessed by
a state authorized agent. States usually permit clergy to act in this role.
Indeed two married people do not need the church or clergy at all. Think
atheists. ]
2. It Violates Natural Law
Marriage is not just any relationship between human beings. It is a
relationship rooted in human nature and thus governed by natural law. [These two statements are correct but assume
the meaning of "Natural Law". Homosexuality is common enough in both
human and other species to demonstrate that it is indeed natural. Love is something
we ascribe only to the human species (we could be wrong) and has no dependency
on gender or reproductive organs. Human nature appears to include instance of
homosexuality.]
3. It Always Denies a Child Either a Father or a
Mother
It
is in the child’s best interests that he be raised under the influence of his
natural father and mother. [This
statement is patently wrong. It is best that a child be raised by one or two
abusive "natural fathers or mothers?" Is it in the best interest of a
child to be raised by drug or alcohol addicted parents?] This rule is
confirmed by the evident difficulties faced by the many children who are
orphans or are raised by a single parent, a relative, or a foster parent. [Many of the difficulties of children
raised in single parent, foster parent or by a relative stem from the prior
conditions that child endured with his or her "natural family". Foster
care children are predominantly those children who were removed from their
living conditions for their protection. In some cases the foster or alternate
home is just as abusive or damaging.]
Same-sex “marriage” ignores a child’s best interests. [The instances of same-sex parenting are
still so rare that making the above statement is pulling an opinion out of a
dark place and labeling it a fact.]
4. It Validates and Promotes the Homosexual
Lifestyle
In
the name of the “family,” same-sex “marriage” serves to validate not only such
unions but the whole homosexual lifestyle in all its bisexual and transgender
variants. [This is correct except for
the cryptic implied meaning of "whole homosexual lifestyle". There
are many behaviors that two people may engage in prior to becoming married and
wanting to raise a family. Those things are part of the lifestyle on both side
of the "I do vow." After marriage there is no "bisexuality"
practiced or it is no different than heterosexual infidelity.]
Civil laws are structuring principles of man's life in society. As such, they
play a very important and sometimes decisive role in influencing patterns of
thought and behavior. They externally shape the life of society, but also
profoundly modify everyone’s perception and evaluation of forms of behavior. [Civil laws are just what the marriage
equality movement is all about. They govern inheritance, parental rights,
property ownership, survivor rights, medical decisions, and a whole lot more.
Civil law is governed by the Constitution and is periodically modified to meet
societies needs.]
Legal recognition of same-sex “marriage” would necessarily obscure certain
basic moral values, devalue traditional marriage, and weaken public morality. [So you say. I call BS on this one
entirely. This statement needs examples.]
5. It Turns a Moral Wrong into a Civil Right
Homosexual
activists argue that same-sex “marriage” is a civil rights issue similar to the
struggle for racial equality in the 1960s.
This is false. [The statement and the assertion
that it is false are both false. The struggle for marriage equality is not one
of who has sex with whom or how. If is a struggle to have legal rights to all
the other benefits of marriage that man-woman couples enjoy. Things like joint
income tax filing, survivor Social Security benefits, pension claims, employer
paid family health insurance coverage and many other things. Marriage has had
to be expressly allowed between people of different genetic races. In that
respect it became a civil rights issue, but only because some group of people
opposed it or their own reasons.]
6. It Does Not Create a Family but a Naturally
Sterile Union
Traditional
marriage is usually so fecund that those who would frustrate its end must do
violence to nature to prevent the birth of children by using contraception. It
naturally tends to create families. [The
assertion that many families are purely the result of fecundity belies the fact
that married couples of higher income and higher education tend to make a plan
for a family rather than relying on unrestrained copulation.]
On the contrary, same-sex “marriage” is intrinsically sterile. If the “spouses”
want a child, they must circumvent nature by costly and artificial means or
employ surrogates. [or they adopt a
child who needs a family. In any case, the cost of making a family is a cost of
love rather than an accidental new mouth to feed.] The natural tendency of
such a union is not to create families. [Some
same-sex couples want children and some don't. The now former prohibition on
marriage did not result in two other heterosexual unions that did create a
family. Many newly permitted couples have waited decades to have the state
recognize what is in their hearts.]
Therefore, we cannot call a same-sex union marriage and give it the benefits of
true marriage. [Call it anything you
want to, but be polite about it. Now it does get the same benefits as do ALL
marriages.]
7. It Defeats the State’s Purpose of Benefiting
Marriage
One
of the main reasons why the State bestows numerous benefits on marriage is that
by its very nature and design, marriage provides the normal conditions for a
stable, affectionate, and moral atmosphere that is beneficial to the upbringing
of children—all fruit of the mutual affection of the parents. This aids in
perpetuating the nation and strengthening society, an evident interest of the
State. [While this is mostly true,
adoption of children in need of parents also meets this goal and removes from
the public welfare system children who otherwise would be a burden on the
State.]
8. It Imposes Its Acceptance on All Society
By
legalizing same-sex “marriage,” the State becomes its official and active
promoter. The State calls on public officials to officiate at the new civil
ceremony, orders public schools to teach its acceptability to children, and
punishes any state employee who expresses disapproval. [The State also calls murder and rape crimes even if a person's
religion says it's okay. The State forces all citizen to adhere to the morality
of not murdering or raping.]
In the private sphere, objecting parents will see their children exposed more
than ever to this new “morality,” businesses offering wedding services will be
forced to provide them for same-sex unions, and rental property owners will
have to agree to accept same-sex couples as tenants. [The marriage and family relationships of people buying cakes and
renting homes are no business of the business owners. The same battles were
fought in the 1960s over segregation and inter-racial marriages.]
In every situation where marriage affects society, the State will expect
Christians and all people of good will to betray their consciences by
condoning, through silence or act, an attack on the natural order and Christian
morality. [Then a Christian must resist
serving murderers, rapists, pedophiles, usurers, divorced people, remarried
people, heterosexual married sodomites, con artists and thieves too unless they
want to be complicit and enabling of those lifestyles.]
9. It Is the Cutting Edge of the Sexual Revolution
In
the 1960s, society was pressured to accept all kinds of immoral sexual
relationships between men and women. Today we are seeing a new sexual
revolution where society is being asked to accept sodomy and same-sex
“marriage.” [I hesitate to point out
that there are tens of thousands more heterosexual married sodomites than
homosexual ones. Bakers better make sure that are not frosting a cake for two
of THEM.]
If homosexual “marriage” is universally accepted as the
present step in sexual “freedom,” what logical arguments can be used to stop
the next steps of incest, pedophilia, bestiality, and other forms of unnatural
behavior? Indeed, radical elements of certain “avant garde” subcultures are
already advocating such aberrations. [First,
marriage equality is not all about sex, on which many opponents seem fixated. Incest,
pedophilia, bestiality, and other forms of unnatural behavior(?) are not
specific to homosexuals. Statistically, most people who do such things are
heterosexual. At least the population statistics would support that statement.]
10. It Offends God
This
is the most important reason. [Says
you.] Whenever one violates the natural moral order established by God, one
sins and offends God. [Let God speak for
himself. Don't rely on a contradictory text written centuries ago and modified
by dozens of religious zealots of their times.] Same-sex “marriage” does
just this. Accordingly, anyone who professes to love God must be opposed to it.
[Unless of course, God spoke to their
hearts and says Love is Love.]
